Why people want to have sex

People have sex sometimes to bridge a connection with other people. They do that when they feel distant from people and they want to use physical sex as an effective distraction from their unwanted effects from mental isolation and loneliness.

People who often change sexual partners do so to gain new connections as they get bored after a prolonged relationship with a person. If such people are constantly using sexual connections to connect with others, they are doing so because of a deficient ability to connect with people in non-sexual ways.

Sometimes they don't really judge who their sexual partners are, as long as they are able to have a physical sexual connection. This is prevalent in blind one-night-stands where people have "fast love". People who practises one-night-stands are probably seen as fulfilling their "physical need quota" to connect, they just have the pressing need to connect. This is also often known as lust, sexual desires or sexual libido. They also want new people to connect with as they get easily tired of people's bodies. But it is like treating people's bodies as objects, like new clothes that one wears everyday.

Why do people need to connect mentally or physically with other people?

They do so because it is a nice comforting experience especially with the people that they like. Connecting to people gives one support and strength for survival. It also gives one motivation energy to deal with life's difficulties. It is also a wonderful distraction for unpleasant negative thoughts. Talking to friends or going out with them are good examples of human connections.

Being in love actually means to achieve a mental connection with a person. So it is normal to love people whether they are of the same gender or not.

Loving people is fine but using people's bodies to attempt to connect with them shows signs of problems.

A deficient ability to connect mentally with people will only lead to further problems. If a person cannot connect well with others, it could lead to many misunderstandings and problems.

If a person can connect well mentally with others, there is no need for physical sexual connections. And having sex would be left for the original purpose of procreation.

People who have plenty of sex only reveals a deficient ability to connect mentally with people. They are certaintly not role models to follow.

This is why society often feels that homosexuals who practises sexual promiscuity are not doing the right thing. Gay parties and spas that promotes physical sexual connections are often disapproved for this subconscious reason in people's minds. They feel that it is not right but can't find the reason to explain it.