Why there is promiscuity among people

We know of people who have broken off with their boy or girl friends, and getting to find other new partners. Also of divorced people finding new marriage partners quickly. Friends who break off friendships and finding new friends.

Why do people move on from one person to the other so conveniently? How do they move on so quickly?

This is because of the new found sense of security in the new found person.

We break off our relationships with people we find to be unsuitable for us and we move on and find new companions.

Sometimes the speed and ease of the transition from people to people makes a person seems "unfaithful" and "heartless", whether it is sexual relations or friendships.

The bottom line of the reason why people practise this "promiscuity" is because they are seeking a sense of security in people when they seek out their friends or sexual partners. They want to find that ideal someone who pose the least threats to their identity. Which is why when a person discovers that another person is incompatible in character, he would break off the relationship and find someone else to be his companion.

We are all very familiar with the movie or real-life scenario where a guy breaks off with his partner and then the next following week the partner sees the ex-boyfriend with someone new walking down the street. And then the partner feels depressed at how the ex-boyfriend could move on so quickly and forget about his old relationship so quickly as if it meant nothing to him at all. And the partner broods about the "cold heartlessness" scene and just cannot get over it.

It is the same underlying reason whether it is for friendships, marriage or for people seeking sexual partners. People seek people who are "safe" to them, who poses the least "threat" to their character, who are most compatible in behaviour.

But when they discover the incompatiblity in a person, their self-preservation mechanism in their mind would sabotage the relationship and end it. And then they would move on quickly to find the next ideal person asap. As what my previous posts have mentioned, the reason is because of the never-ending need for a person to seek something or someone that can alleviate the insecurities(threats) in their lives.

The person can choose to have a boyfriend if he feels that a guy can fulfill his own insecurities, or a girlfriend if she can fulfill his insecurities, or even both genders. Bisexuals do not discriminate or be biased by the threat qualities between the genders as much as gays or straights do, which is why they can accomodate both genders.

The person would not be very concerned about his old relationship, whether how long it had lasted or the countless memories associated with it. All he wants is to find the ideal person to alleviate the insecurities(threats) in his mind.

But for the other person who was "dumped", he would not feel the same way, he would think that his ideal person is still his ex, and he is unwilling to let go and find someone new. Just as a dog owner unwilling to get a new dog, or unwilling to get over a person's death.

The problems comes down to using people to distract oneself from one's insecurities(threats) or boredom. Stop treating people as tools to alleviate one's insecurities(threats) and many of the problems would solve itself.