The safe and threat qualities

What are the safe and threat qualities that I have been mentioning occasionally in the blog? In this post, I will briefly explain their definitions.

The safe quality of a person or object is a quality that does not pose a threat to the person's identity. It does not corrupt his identity nor induces fear in him. For example a cute teddy bear.

The threat qualities of a person or object is a quality that poses a significant threat to the person's identity and even his survival. It occasionally poses threats and induces fear to the person. An example is a wild monkey.

A person may feel more comfortable with a cute teddy bear than with a wild monkey who has an incompatible personality to his. Therefore he would prefer the company of his teddy bear to the wild monkey at any time.

This is why children who face fears, would absorb themselves in their doll or bear hugs, and would sleep with them as they provide comfort away from their threats and fears of objects or people.

Sometimes a person would feel that a person is handsome and attractive without consciously knowing the reasons for the instinctual attraction. One of the reasons is due to the presence of safe qualities detected by the person's subconscious mind.

The person's subconscious is saying that the attractive person has observable safe and compatible personalities, therefore less likely to pose a threat to his survival, and would not corrupt his identity, therefore would bring forth happiness, therefore a good candidate as a companion for him to like.

The person would deem him to be attractive, charming, easy-going, pleasant etc because he does not pose a significant threat but enholds a sense of security. The same reason why females are attracted to rich but unattractive guys. The rich guys have the quality of finances to alleviate their insecurity(lack of finances) that sometimes would pose a threat(fear) to their survival.

This is similar to what young people, such as the boy who experiences crushes in school, are also going through as well. He could fantasize about the safe and compatible qualities of his crush all day long to fill in his other unwanted thoughts of unsecurity.

A kid would hug a bear to sleep, as the safe and compatible qualities of the bear would fill in his thoughts of fears or uncertainties in his mind that keeps him worried and awake.

The ever crucial self-preservation need to replace and distract away the subconscious feelings of insecurities in the mind of a person, has been the motivation factor for human desire and obsessions, such as being attracted to beautiful people. Along with habits like smoking to relieve "stress", drinking, gaming, sports, shopping, eating, sex, and masturbation etc

They say Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I would also like to add that Beauty in things or in people, is also defined by how much safe and compatible qualities are present in them.